Resource: Gentle Start Ups for Broaching the Topic of Sex with Your Clients
These statements and questions are designed to be respectful, open-ended, and non-judgmental, helping to create a safe space for clients to explore and discuss their sexual wellness. Here are some statements and questions that a mental health counselor can use to bring up the topic of sex and sexuality in a session.
General Inquiries
"It's important to consider all aspects of your well-being, including your sexual health. How do you feel about discussing this part of your life?"
"Sexuality is a significant part of overall health. Are there any concerns or topics related to sex that you'd like to talk about?"
Normalizing the Conversation
"Many clients find that their sexual health impacts their mental health. Have you noticed any connection between the two in your life?"
"It's common for people to have questions or concerns about their sexual experiences. How comfortable do you feel discussing this?"
Relationship Context
"How do you feel about the intimacy in your current relationship?"
"Can you tell me about your experiences with physical affection and sexual intimacy in your relationships?"
Emotional and Physical Well-being
"How satisfied are you with your sexual life, and how does it impact your overall happiness?"
"Do you feel that your sexual health and experiences are affecting your emotional well-being?"
Past Experiences
"Have your past sexual experiences influenced how you view relationships or intimacy now?"
"Were there any experiences in your past that you feel are important to discuss when it comes to your sexual health?"
Specific Concerns or Issues
"Are there any specific issues or questions related to sex that you've been thinking about or struggling with?"
"Have you noticed any changes or concerns in your sexual health that you think might be important to address?"
Educational and Supportive Questions
"Do you have any questions about sexual wellness or relationships that you feel uncertain about?"
"Is there any information or resources about sexuality that you feel would be helpful for you?"
Comfort and Boundaries
"It's perfectly okay to set boundaries about what you're comfortable discussing. Is there anything related to sexuality that you're not ready to talk about yet?"
"How can I make this conversation more comfortable for you?"
Integrating into Overall Therapy
"How do you feel your sexual health fits into the broader picture of your mental and emotional health?"
"In what ways do you think discussing your sexuality can help us work towards your overall therapy goals?"
Future Goals and Aspirations
"What are your hopes and goals when it comes to your sexual health and relationships?"
"How can we work together to ensure your sexual health supports your overall well-being and happiness?"
